When is a fresh start the best choice?
Back in 2010, two years into our life at Dream House, we were deep into what had turned out to be one bad-to-the-bone relationship. The longer we were there, the harder it was to recall how we felt when we were healthy and normal. What did it feel like to be able to go through your bills each month without melting down into a panic attack? I couldn’t remember. How did it feel to take a vacation? Vacation was a foreign concept, something other people did and came back and told me about. Forget vacations or paying bills: I had no recollection of how it felt to be just plain relaxed and happy.
Later that year, we decided to move, and a move did indeed go a long way toward solving our problems.
Here are three good reasons to move:
1. Your problem is a real estate problem.
Your spouse dies and you find yourself living alone in a big house on a cul-de-sac surrounded by families. Moving to a place where you will have more social interaction with peers will help. Here’s a New York Times article about a bunch of people who faced similar life situations and whether they decided to move or not. Or like us, your house might cost too much and is sucking you dry. You have one bad-ass real estate problem, and moving will solve it. If your problem is a real estate problem, then a real estate solution is the answer.
2. You need to signal to yourself that this is a fresh start.
After a divorce, you are engaged and you and your new fiancé want to start a new family life together. You’ve survived an illness and want to start fresh in new environs that shows you have a new lease on life. Either way, you’ve gone through the valley, have survived the crisis and whatever issues you had, you won’t be bringing them with you in the moving van.
3. You’ve been mulling over a move for years.
Your spouse leaves you. Your dog dies. Your last child leaves the nest. All of these are major shifts, but maybe you’ve been mulling over a move for years anyway. If you’ve been longing for a change of scenery, a crisis can be the final straw that spurs you to necessary action. In that case, you’re not running away from your problems — you’re running toward a place that you’ve always wanted to be anyway.